Sorry for all the lack of updates! I don't have a lot of individual date details to share. I have had 23 dates so far and all have been with one guy since my last update. Adam from Canada (his name isn't Adam BTW) and I have gone on several dates. I decided about a month ago not to see anyone else besides him. I wouldn't call him my "boyfriend" or anything but I am not dating anyone else right now. He is incredly kind, thoughtful and nice. Everytime I see him, I leave telling myself I can't believe how nice he is. He is very interesting, cute and smart. While I am not giving you a lot of updates, I figure this is a big update to share! Hope you are enjoying your 3 day weekend!
I went on 3 dates this week. My quarterly goal was 11 and I am currently at 12 with another one scheduled this week.
Date 10- Robert who is a Real Estate Agent. It started off strange. Almost like he had a lot of caffeine or drugs right before. I thought the date might be shorter than my 20 minute date! The date slowed down eventually and he was really funny and nice. No chemistry but that's alright.
Date 11-Second date with Adam from Canada. We had dinner at my favorite Indian restaurant. Food and company were great. I found out a lot of information about him like he isn't really "from" Canada. He is Persian and has lived in various other countries but was in Canada for the past 8 years. He had a crazy, messy divorce. He is cute, smart and interesting. I have concerns about cultural differences but I am not worrying about that for now and just going to go with the flow.
Date 12-Third date with Adam. He invited me to brunch and well that is my most favorite meal so I said yes. After brunch we walked about South Congress and looked at the shops. It was nice to see him again. As I was driving home, I started to realize I don't know that I have ever had a third or fourth date with one person. I tend to all of a sudden be in a relationship with someone so this feels a bit awkward to me. I also think we need a change of venue for the next date. Something fun versus a meal. We are going out on Wednesday for date four and we are going bowling. Details next week!
Have a great rest of your Sunday!
Sorry for no fun pictures this week. I didn't spend much time going through the dating apps this week so I don't have any to share. Will do better next week.
I am terrible at updaing this timely. Luckily I see most of you regular basis so you know what is going on. Here is a recap of each date I have gone on since my last update.
Date 5 was the infamous date that lasted 20 minutes with Fred. We met at taco Deli for a lunch date. We ordered tacos, ate and left in 20 minutes. He is only 4 years older than me but it felt like is 20. No chemistry or desire to see each other again.
Date 6 was with John. John is an engineer that used to have a cat. He has taste tested organic free range eggs to caged chicken eggs and didn't find any difference between the two. He also visited Thailand once and is still obsessed with the eggs the chef at the Westin made. He has tried to recreate them several times. No more dates with John...
Date 7 was a no show. Todd and I were meeting at Jackalope at 6:30 pm. I had never been so at 6:00 I sent him a message confirming the one by his house. No response. I went ahead and went to Jackalope and waited 18 minutes before leaving. This is the message I received from Todd between 10:00 pm and 5:30 am: Sorry. I got out at 7 today. We had evaluations for my 1 yr contract. Ugh. I cam home after. So, Todd will never hear from me again.
Date 8 was with Adam from Canada who moved to Austin a month ago to wotk at UT. He is cute, tall and very interesting. He has traveled to every continent except one. It was a really good date! Not sure if I am most excited about having a good date or him but I am excited for date 2. We are getting together on Tuesday evening.
Date 9 was Kevin who is recently divorced. He is still working on some stuff from his divorce he said. He is very nice and the conversation was easy until there was nothing else to talk about. I think Kevin needs to work a little more on himself before another date.
I thought I had another date but I can't remember who it was with. Oops! I have 2 scheduled for this week.
And because everyone loves online dating photos, I am sharing some that my friends and I have come across recently.
I have gone on 3 dates over the past 3 weeks!
Date 2 was with Bummer Bill. I knew within 10 minutes that the date was going to suck. He was very boring and not interesting at all. I was barely able to spend 45 minutes with him. I had to get out of there before he sucked all the joy out of my soul! So I quickly ended it and got out of there. It was the first date that I have ever gone on that it was obvious that I had zero interest in ever seeing them again.
I had 2 more dates scheduled but had to reschedule because I came down with the flu. Luckily both guys understood and were cool with rescheduling.
Date 3 was with Michael. He was the first date I went on this year. He is one of the nicest guys I have ever met but there isn't any chemistry. At first I was interested in going on another date with him but I realized I could go on 40 dates with him and would feel the same way. Super nice guy but he doesn't have much passion for anything. He doesn't seem like a doer either. And for anyone who doesn't know me, I rarely watch tv and enjoy doing things! I want a guy that has some passion and enjoys trying new things and Michael is not like that.
Date 4 was with John. John is also very nice! He is a single dad to a 14 year old boy. He is pretty nerdy and enjoys playing video games and some card game that I don't understand. He is pretty introverted and I am definitely not that! Not second date potential.
So, I consider myself lucky so far to have met 2 very nice guys even though there isn't any long term potential with either. I have also noticed a common theme where the guys don't ask about me. I don't want the entire date to be all about me but these guys don't even ask where I am from, what I like to do, etc. I don't think they are narcissists but more that they are pretty introverted and struggle socially maybe? Who knows but I want someone who is interested in me! I think I am pretty interesting!
I am hoping to get another date schedueld this next week before I go out of town for a work conference. Do you know anyone I should meet??
And here is another great profile that I cam across.
I finally had a date! One down! His name is Michael. I met him on Bumble. He is a researcher for a state agency and is finishing his Ph.D. We met at Radio on Thursday night. I am on a detox of sorts and I feel like it sounds very high maintenance if I say that before we meet so I tried to find a place with alcohol and coffee/tea. Radio is a perfect first date spot. They have beer, coffee, tea and live music most nights. He is cute and nice. Very chatty but not sure if that is a nervous thing. He is a couple of years older than me. He isn't creepy or strange which always makes me have a sigh of relief. We have a second date on Tuesday night. I tend to make the first date more about is he strange and creepy. If not, I am usually open to a second date. Not many guys have made it from second date to third date though. I will let everyone know how Tuesday goes!
I have a date today with a guy named Bill. Bill lives in North Austin so we are meeting halfway between us at a coffee shop. He is also a couple of years oler than me. His Bumble profile says he is an Entrepreneur which a lot of my friends and I joke that usually means they don't have a job when they list that. I don't have many more details.
Because I know my friends in relationships always love seeing a funny profile, I give you the below messaging exchange with Cory.
I had 2 promising dates lined up a couple of days before January 1st. I was so proud of myself! Starting off strong! And then the guys flaked and I never heard from them. For anyone who is not familar with the online dating apps, you would be surprised how many guys you match with versus how many you communicate with versus how many you eventually go on a date with. I think it is because the volume of people you are swiping right no, matching with and then trying to communicate with several people at once can be exhausting. And if you don't respond within a short amount of time it is likely the person has moved on to someone else who is responding at that moment. The good news is I am communicating with 2 different guys right now and I have a tentative date scheduled for Tuesday night. I also have my first night of my axe throwing league tonight. Fingers crossed for a date!
And because my couple friends love seeing photos of the guys' online profiles I am sharing this one. Sad part is this one is better than most. So many shirtless selfies in these guys' profiles. I mean do these guys not have friends to take a photo of them?
For some reason I love challenges. Some friends have asked me if I just like to torture myself! I turn 43 on June 30, 2018 and decided in honor of my 43rd birthday that I will go on 43 dates in 2018. My goal is to find love and I hope that I will meet someone early on and go on forty something dates with the same person but I might not fall in love or he might be my forty-second date. Who knows! I hope that by having a goal of a certain number of dates that I will stay motivated when I get tired of the online dating. I will post a few sentences or more about each date here to stay accountable. Some names might be changed. I have no idea how this is going to go but I reserve the right to do whatever the hell I want to do on here. My plan is to be on Bumble, okcupid and Match. I am also in Tawkify's database. Tawkify is a match making service and I might hire them at some point so I am trying just being in their database for now. Do you have any other dating apps you would recommend? I have also joined an axe throwing league. We went on a work event at this axe throwing place recently and there were lots of guys there! Any suggestions on groups to join or other hobbies to try? Wish me luck!
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